Narcissists Must Control Always!

Narcissists will try to control, even from the grave.  

Narcissists' don't "do" therapy!

Narcissists Love Drama!

Calmly tell them you disagree, and they are entitled to their opinion.

Narcissistic Parents Demand Respect!

Narcissistic Parents feel they are entitled to respect simply by because they are your parent.  How do you feel about this??

Narcissistic Parents Use Emotional Blackmail!

Narcissistic parents use emotional blackmail on their children.  They also pit siblings against each other.  

Does this sound familiar?

Narcissistic Parents - Control!

Narcissistic parents want to control their children's life.  They will not tolerate independent children.  Even as adults they want to control every facet of their children's life.  Who they marry, where they work, how many children they have, etc.  The list never ends!

 Is your parent always trying to tell you what to do under the guise of "knowing what is best for you?"

Narcissistic Parental - Traits!

Just because your parent is a narcissist, does NOT mean you are doomed to be narcissistic.  You may have some of the traits which are simply due to your childhood environment.  Here are just a few:
    
    being very negative
    no confidence or over-confidence
    become angered quickly
    have trouble with relationships
    low self-esteem

The good news is... that you can change, your parent can't!

 

Narcissistic Parents Brainwash Their Children

Narcissistic parents repeat the same negative messages over & over to their children.  This is done so that the parent is able to control the child.  The child eventually ends up with self-doubt, and believing the lies!  Running away will not solve the problem.

 

 The parent must be stood up to!  No you will never change their mind/opinion about you, but standing up to them is for you! (not them!) By standing up to them, you will begin to build your self-esteem and gain your freedom.  You will stop believing their lies.

Narcissistic Parents Accuse Children Of Being Disrespectful & Ungrateful!

How many times have you been accused of being disrespectful or ungrateful?  "After all I have done for you!"  Does that sound familiar?  This is a common manipulative statement from a narcissistic parent.  They tend to say this when they want something from you, OR don't want to do something you have asked of them.

Narcissistic Parents Ridicule Their Children!

A narcissistic parent will constantly ridicule their child.  Their adult child is treated as though they are still a kid.  The narcissistic parent will accuse their child of certain "faulty" behaviors.  If you are able to step back and look at the situation, you will see that what they are blaming you for is their own behavior!  For example, if they say you are lazy, they are lazy.  If they accuse you of telling lies, they are lying to others. 

Narcissist's Are Never Satisfied!

No matter how hard you try to please a narcissist, it will never be enough.  They are like a bucket with a hole in the bottom.  They are never able to be filled.  This is due to their lack of self-worth.  Don't take it personally,  It's not your fault!!  Their needs can never be met. 

Are you still trying to please your parent, in an effort to get an ounce of approval from them?

 

Narcissist's Don't Feel Love!

Narcissist's are not capable of feeling love.  They appear to be in love with themselves, but they truly aren't.  It is all a facade.  Their actions are a learned behavior.  Their deep dark secret is that they feel flawed.  Your narcissistic parent will claim they love you, but they don't.  Remember not to take it personal.  You are loveable, it's not your fault they can't love you.

 

Do you believe your narcissistic parent loves you?

Narcissistic Entitlement

Narcissistic parents can be nasty and cruel as they want to be.  They dump negative feelings on you, and in the blink of an eye expect you to be nice to them.  They feel entitled to your affection even after berating and demeaning comments! 

 One day of niceness

 does not make up for a thousand

 days of horribleness!

What do you think?

Narcissistic Damage

Narcissists create so much turmoil in a family.  They are like a tornado. They destroy everything in their path and couldn't care less about the damage they cause.  Everyone is left with trying to pick up the pieces.

It is very important to have support when going through the process of healing!  I had the support of my sister, who do you get support from?

First Steps Towards Healing:

• Learn all you can about narcissism.  Education is always the key to understanding anything.  The more you know about narcissism, the better off you will be.  You will gain insight on how narcissist's think.  We are all individuals, and so are narcissists.  No 2 narcissists are exactly the same.

• Narcissist's cannot change, and are not rational.  Trying to show them they are wrong is a waste of your time.  If you are still engaging in arguing or using logic to show/prove them wrong, it simply won't work.

Narcissistic Parent Help

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